angelahelena:

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November 2011

womenaresociety:

Jon Hamm Talks About Rape and the Lack of Positive Male Role Models

Hamm was recently a speaker at the Rape Treatment Center benefit brunch in Beverly Hills where he spoke about his pre-Mad Men employment history — which we will refer to as phase one of your ever-deepening affection.

Apparently, the man behind Don Draper is a former high school teacher and also worked at a daycare center. Hamm said he’s always felt very connected to children, which he attributes to being the child of a single parent —and thus spending “the majority of my life in daycare, after school programs, summer school programs,” which brings us to phase two:

Hamm said, “Having gone through what I had gone through as a child…there were no real male role models in any of these places. There were never any dudes. It was a bummer as a young man to, not only not have a father figure in my life, but no real male figures as teachers or as educators or as afterschool program leaders or anything,” he said.

AND THEN —in what is both phase three and also such an important message that is rarely discussed by men, especially in entertainment— Hamm makes a point of talking about how important it is to reach out to young boys and men and educate them on the “lasting impact of rape”:

Hamm made the point to emphasize the importance of the Rape Treatment Center’s educational outreach, especially for boys and young men. “It is an important thing to instill in a younger generation about the impact of rape, the lasting impact of rape,” he said, adding, “Children from grade school to high school to college are incredibly susceptible and incredibly malleable, as we all know. To get them early, to teach them about the facts and figures and other realities of rape is key. It is an important issue to me as not only a man, but as an educator, as a human being and as a person on this planet.”

All lighthearted jokes about love-deepening aside, this is such an important message and I’m so thrilled he was able to send it.

Rape is not a female issue. Rape is everyone’s issue, which is why it’s often an incredibly powerful thing to have a man stand up and say that. Obviously, I’m not saying it’s any better or worse or that one’s ability to be taken seriously has to be tied to gender but in terms of reaching a larger audience of men, I do think that there’s something powerful about a man —especially a widely respected and beloved man such as Hamm— standing up and encouraging other men to educate themselves and their sons on what they can personally do to prevent rape, instead of continuing to simply tell women to protect themselves or “dress differently” (ugh).

I wish we were at the point where hearing this message coming from incredibly strong people of any gender was enough, but I really feel like we need to be hearing these messages from everyone so that people realize that rape isn’t simply a women’s issue or a heterosexual issue. It truly is everyone’s issue.

Hats off to you, Jon Hamm for shedding light on this fact. 

*Thanks to Britany for sending this!

(Source: silenceintended)

angelahelena:

#6: I’m slightly hungover but I did have a really delightful night. 

28 October 2011

ruzzdotorg:

stretch marks are beautiful. 

a model i’ve shot a couple times posted on facebook that her modelling career is over. when asked why her reply was that her body was being over run by stretch marks. this of course brought on the expected facebook bullshit of people saying how amazing she was. which i presume was the desired goal. i resisted commenting because i was deeply outraged and like her so I didn’t want to damage our friendship. 

I’m so absolutely tired of the bullshit conventions of beauty. the ridiculous denial of true human beauty. the denial of the power of time and exposure on the the body to craft it deeper into uniqueness. more than that i’m tired of the shallowness, narrow thinking and lies stacked upon lies. 

to suggest one’s modelling career is over due to imperfections is to ignore the massive amount of photoshopping that happens in the world. to deny the cover up that’s sold in bulk to make up artists, and probably worse is to deny the broad spectrum of types of modelling that exist. 

if every model i’ve worked with felt that way I’d have had no models to work with. i’d have made no pictures. 

moreover, as someone with a lot of stretch marks myself i find it offensive to say that i am somehow less beautiful because my body created an organic solution to a problem of my skin needing to stretch. that my body reacted elegantly and created a solution that didn’t include my skin cracking and breaking and letting my insides outside, or letting all the things in the world that want to kill me in. 

i see stretch marks as proof of the body being a living miracle and to suggest that being owner of the most sophisticaed biological device known is not enough somehow really makes me want to throw sharp objects at people’s heads. 

your body is fucking miracle. there’s no other word to describe it. 

for a woman i know, who is blessed with one of the more physically perfect bodies i’ve ever seen in my life (and did nothing but show up in the gene pool to get it) to say what she says reveals something truly ugly in my mind. 

i want to be clear though. I am angry. and i do feel she needs to really sit down and think about this but she’s just parroting the tripe that has been fed to her by an entire industry hell bent on lies and banality. 

i wish she could see what a gift her beauty, and grace and youth are and embrace them. I wish she could see past the surface of her own skin to see what she could offer the modelling world, and world at large, far outweigh the supposed boon of perfect skin. because if she doesn’t she can’t offer either. 

when i see things like this it really makes me want to just curl up and pull away from people but i decided instead to find a picture of one of my favourite stretch marked models and remind myself real beauty comes from a willingness to engage the whole of life. 

if enough of you share/like, etc this to make a solid case to her that she needs to look deeper i will share this link with her. 

And in honor of the “reflection” portrait: my favorite mirror photo, circa 2005. Our first apartment together, newly married, in the midst of the first of many self-inflicted haircuts. I should have just left it that way.

GDSP #4

ATTN the vast majority of my followers: This is no longer a vaguely-artsy-naked-girl-reblog tumblr. I’m not sure what it is now, but, y’know, unfollow accordingly.

So. Hi, I’m Dan, though I’m more accustomed to hearing Daniel these days. I don’t know what I’m doing here. I’m not an artist or a photographer or a writer or a musician. I’m not anything really. I’m a nurse, but not for much longer. I live in Florida, but I’ll be somewhere up north by year’s end. Everything is changing, always. Maybe someday soon I’ll be something after all.

Anyway, hi.

chronically-awesome:

lonelyheartsdeathmetal:

Everybody stop what you’re doing right now and look at this.

I SAID LOOK AT IT.

I don’t know what’s going on here, but I laughed so loudly that one of my housemates opened my door to ask if I was losing my mind. I mean, I am, of course, but seriously. The Lols.

fuzzytingletimesinthenight:

thedailywhat:

Chaos Life.

Yep this is accurate

mollypeck:

(busted)

belialjones:

mr 

strange

(Source: anotherone000)

weblewit:

“Even bad coffee is better than no coffee at all.”

-David Lynch

This trip was all about the past, but suddenly, it’s about the future.